I am sure many men find Valentine’s Day tiresome. Why? Because for a lot of men, I won’t say most, I definitely won’t say all, but for a lot of men all the work for Valentine’s Day is on them, and often times they are totally forgotten.
There are so many ads as soon as Christmas is over focusing on gifts for Valentine’s Day. Most all of these ads are geared towards husbands looking for gifts for their wives. I’m a firm believer that a holiday should not be the only time you show appreciation for your loved one. Valentine’s Day is not an excuse to finally appreciate your wife or husband, neither is Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays etc. Every day we should be showing appreciation. But, in case you haven’t shown your husband in a while how much they mean to you, here are a couple of ways to celebrate and support your husband….
Give him the night off….
I know it can be hard to be sympathetic to our husband’s workload at the end of the day. As working wives, working moms, stay at home moms, work at home moms, we all have a ton on our shoulders. It can be hard to understand that although they are not at home all day taking care of kids they have many stresses on them, work stress, family stress, the stress of feeling like the success and failure of the family depends on them bringing in money. No matter the situation for your husband, let your husband come home for the end of the day and just relax.
Surprise him with a date….
Plan the whole evening, get a babysitter, then at the end of the day, pick him up from work and take him out.
Make the decisions…
But do so with what you know he’d like. I know my husband can get tired of feeling like he makes the decisions all the time, what movie to go to, what food to get for dinner, what to do on the weekend. I often feel the same way. We are both so very indecisive and both very caring. This tends to manifest in either I’m not deciding because I want him to be able to do what he wants, or he is not deciding because he wants me to be able to do what I want. So, make the decision but do what you think he’d like for one day. Do not make him choose, but let him have fun with what you know he’s been hoping to do.
Find a thoughtful gift…
Is there anything your husband has been wanting to buy or do but hasn’t because he tends to put you and the kids first? Do that for him. For my husband, he’s been wanting to get a book-case refinished that was his grandfathers. Spend the money when you’re able and surprise him.
Be open to his movie choices or his sports teams…
This one is a tough one for me personally, but I’m not saying do it all the time. You do not need to always watch what he wants to be supportive, but one night take a break from the everyday battle of what we should watch and just watch what he wants. You might be surprised and actually like it.
I will state that these are so easily swapped and should be so. Your husband should show you love these ways too. Marriage is an equal and supportive venture. Both should support one another, both should celebrate one another, and both should surprise one another with little thankfulness daily. Do not wait for Valentine’s Day to do so… but in case Valentine’s Day is fast approaching start thinking now, how can I show my spouse I love them today?
Sarah
