Negative emotions are apart of everyday life, but how are we suppose to deal with these negative emotions? How are we suppose to minimize negative effects of having these emotions? How do we cope? Do we hide them? Do we express them? When we express them can we talk to just anyone? Who can we […]
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Self criticism is how we evaluate ourself. When we are self criticizing we generally are pointing out our own, perceived, flaws. These flaws can be about our appearance, attitude, abilities, talents, education and knowledge, inner thoughts and emotions, etc. When we are self critical we tend to cause continual negative thoughts about ourselves. Examples of […]
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Low self esteem can affect our quality of life in many different ways. When low self esteem is not treated it can lead to major mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression. Low self esteem is not thought of as a mental health condition in itself, however, there is strong correlation to how we […]
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What we say to ourselves, our inner voice, greatly influences our own self image and self esteem. Most of us have heard “I’m my own worst critic,” as we let our inner voice criticize our selves it can bring down our motivation and raise feelings of helplessness. When we feel we are stupid, wrong, a […]
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Now that we understand some of the negative thinking styles that can cause negativity in our inner voice we need to start to consider where does the negativity come from. We all have a history we all have reasons we draw certain conclusions, whether they are rational or not. What in our past has shaped […]
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Have you ever thought you have some sort of clairvoyance? You can predict the future. Have you ever predicted the outcome of a situation or event and assumed it would have a negative outcome? This is fortune telling. This is a cognitive distortion that is harmful to our self esteem, inner self talk, and can […]
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A lot of us have irrational thoughts. Those irrational thoughts can be apart of our negative thinking style and a contributing factor to our negative self talk. One irrational thinking style that can be very harmful to our own self esteem, self talk and general mood is catastrophizing. What is Catastrophizing? Catastrophizing is when we […]
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It can be hard for most anyone to not have this thinking style at least at times. Personalization Personalization is another cognitive distortion, a very unhelpful thinking style that can harm our inner voice and self esteem. Personalization is when we take things extremely personally or tend to blame ourselves for events out of our […]
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Overgeneralization is a thinking style that can be very harmful to our inner voice. Overgeneralization is when we generalize beyond appropriate or justified limits. What does this mean? We tend to have one experience and generalize it to all experiences. I personally do this a lot. Overgeneralization and Social Anxiety Overgeneralization can commonly be an […]
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One of the important thinking styles to recognize we may have is black and white thinking. Black and white thinking is where you see a situation as solely one or the other. A person is a friend or an enemy. Things are right or wrong. If you do not love someone then you hate them. […]
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