I am sure many men find Valentine’s Day tiresome. Why? Because for a lot of men, I won’t say most, I definitely won’t say all, but for a lot of men all the work for Valentine’s Day is on them, and often times they are totally forgotten.
There are so many ads as soon as Christmas is over focusing on gifts for Valentine’s Day. Most all of these ads are geared towards husbands looking for gifts for their wives. I’m a firm believer that a holiday should not be the only time you show appreciation for your loved one. Valentine’s Day is not an excuse to finally appreciate your wife or husband, neither is Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays etc. Every day we should be showing appreciation. But, in case you haven’t shown your husband in a while how much they mean to you, here are a couple of ways to celebrate and support your husband….
Give him the night off….
I know it can be hard to be sympathetic to our husband’s workload at the end of the day. As working wives, working moms, stay at home moms, work at home moms, we all have a ton on our shoulders. It can be hard to understand that although they are not at home all day taking care of kids they have many stresses on them, work stress, family stress, the stress of feeling like the success and failure of the family depends on them bringing in money. No matter the situation for your husband, let your husband come home for the end of the day and just relax.
Surprise him with a date….
Plan the whole evening, get a babysitter, then at the end of the day, pick him up from work and take him out.
Make the decisions…
But do so with what you know he’d like. I know my husband can get tired of feeling like he makes the decisions all the time, what movie to go to, what food to get for dinner, what to do on the weekend. I often feel the same way. We are both so very indecisive and both very caring. This tends to manifest in either I’m not deciding because I want him to be able to do what he wants, or he is not deciding because he wants me to be able to do what I want. So, make the decision but do what you think he’d like for one day. Do not make him choose, but let him have fun with what you know he’s been hoping to do.
Find a thoughtful gift…
Is there anything your husband has been wanting to buy or do but hasn’t because he tends to put you and the kids first? Do that for him. For my husband, he’s been wanting to get a book-case refinished that was his grandfathers. Spend the money when you’re able and surprise him.
Be open to his movie choices or his sports teams…
This one is a tough one for me personally, but I’m not saying do it all the time. You do not need to always watch what he wants to be supportive, but one night take a break from the everyday battle of what we should watch and just watch what he wants. You might be surprised and actually like it.
I will state that these are so easily swapped and should be so. Your husband should show you love these ways too. Marriage is an equal and supportive venture. Both should support one another, both should celebrate one another, and both should surprise one another with little thankfulness daily. Do not wait for Valentine’s Day to do so… but in case Valentine’s Day is fast approaching start thinking now, how can I show my spouse I love them today?
Sarah
I love this, and I totally agree with you – it should be equal. Valentine’s day is my FAVORITE holiday, but I love to give to my husband as much as getting gifts from him. These ideas are great and easy to plan too!
Definitely doing the date idea! I am the most indecisive person but that sounds like the nicest treat. Lovely, thoughtful ideas, thanks so much for sharing!!
You’re SO right! A relationship should go both ways! Men need attention, support and encouragement as much as we do! Great ideas in this post! Definitely got me thinking of ways I can surprise my husband! Thank you!
I love your idea of making the decisions for him. My husband makes decisions all day long and its sometimes hard for him to make those small decisions at night. I think he would really benefit from me making the decisions for the night.
These are great ideas! I need to focus on this this year!
I always try to do something special for Valentine’s Day that can last the year. Like last year I wrote 365 notes for him to read one a day until the next valentine’s day.
This are great tips. I need to try them this year.
Love all these ideas! It’s important to keep the spark alive and make your husband feel special too. I think men sometimes feel left out on big holidays. Great reminder!
oh man, i honestly hate trying to think of stuff for my husband because he’s so hard to shop for!
These are such sweet ideas! I know my hubby would love these!
Great suggestions! I think we all should take the pressure off Valentine’s Day. My husband and I have been together since high school and I can count on less than one hand the amount of Valentine’s Days that have been successful. As years went on, we took to not celebrating. The most we do is pour ourselves some nice drinks (my husband very much enjoys making cocktails) and do whatever we’re into at the time. Usually a movie, conversation, or playing a game together.
I love this my husband does so much for our family. I a always thinking of thoughtful gifts for him to have
I like these ideas. I need to start thinking about what we are going to do for Valentine’s Day and I will have to use some of these suggestions.
I do pretty much all of these on the regular. Always a great way to make someone feel special.